Minimizing the effects of divorce on you and your children.
When you first think of a
divorce you likely think of loss...
Lost money, lost time with your kids, lost love, and lost retirement dreams. All just fading away. My name is Melissa and I am passionate about helping individuals through all stages of separation and divorce.
Despite what you think your divorce does not have to:
Destroy your children
Impact your mental and physical health
Leave you penniless
Take a lifetime of recovery
Leave your cup empty and depleted
Be a pointless sacrifice
With the right skills you can:
Be the parent your children deserve
Build resilience for life to come
Minimize lost time; and lost resources to costly family lawyers
Communicate effectively with your ex or co-parent
Refill your cup, recover and move on with confidence
Why a divorce coach?
You have your lawyer, you have your therapist, do you really need
a divorce coach? Every year there are close to 700,000 divorces with 1 million children affected. The American Bar Association has formally recognized divorce coaching as a form of dispute resolution.
Mental health professionals provide a very necessary service and have a place in your divorce, but many do not offer the targeted support or perspective that you need when navigating the landscape of divorce. I’ve heard numerous complaints that therapy was effective at first but then became a vent session and progress seemed to halt. Divorce coaching keeps you on track, moving forward with accountability and actionable steps.
And then there’s your lawyer, smart as a whip. Feisty. The very person you need for legal strategy and a good outcome to your divorce. But at $500 an hour, the last person you want to process complex emotions or ruminating thoughts with.
The mission behind Shrinking Divorce is to ensure that divorce does not leave you feeling smaller through the delivery of accessible, holistic and integrated coaching services.
Because divorce is not just about the law, the money, the kids, or the house. It’s about all of it. That’s why at Shrinking Divorce we believe that the only thing better than one divorce coach, is two expert coaches working with you to get through your divorce, and magnify the joy in your life after.
Services
Customizable divorce coaching packages to meet you where you are at. Individual coaching includes access to a certified divorce financial analyst.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Divorce coaching is suitable for any stage of the process. Once you have decided to pursue a separation or divorce, you should engage a coach to help with all the non-legal aspects of the process. On the other hand, your divorce may be ancient history but you may still feel stuck in anger and negativity. A divorce coach can help you heal more expediently, design a life of your dreams and finally move on.
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Absolutely, if you are a human that wants to function at your optimal during divorce and magnify your life beyond, then you are suitable for coaching.
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Coaching helps you function at your optimal as you move from A to B. We are not going to waffle for hours, we are going to set goals, outline objectives and match them with coaching interventions. While Shrinking Divorce is your thought partner throughout the process, we do not recommend you fire your therapist. For one, the two are complementary to each other, but most importantly, coaches cannot diagnose or manage mental health conditions or concerns.
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A coach can help you get organized, provide education and practical advice, but a coach cannot provide legal strategy or advice. Coaches stay in their lane by covering these key areas: mindset, organization and goal setting. A good coach can significantly reduce your legal fees by helping you make decisions based on facts and not emotions.